Friendship Skills, from No Such Thing as a Bully

•May 29, 2012 • 1 Comment

No Such Thing as a Bully logo

No Such Thing as a Bully is the anti-bullying system developed by Kelly Karius and myself. Its central premise is this: if you remove labels like “bully” and “victim,” you change the rules by which people evaluate bullying situations. You change the rules! Whatever role the kid may play, it’s the role that gets labeled, not the kid. Since kids are not boxed into roles, they are free to learn how to express feelings in appropriate ways.

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The Gratitude 100!

•May 12, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Beth's graduation cap

Beth’s graduation cap. As I was unable to drive, I had to miss her graduation.

Yeah. I’ve got a lot I can be thankful for. And since The Stroke, it is so much easier to remember them.
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The Gratitude 100 Challenge!

•May 10, 2012 • 1 Comment



My friend, the Sojourner, has embarked on a personal mission: to list a hundred things she is thankful for, and post them on her blog by Sunday, May 13. She’ll make it – that’s not an issue, because she has 72 as I write this. Here are a few items she shared with me earlier today:

  • A warm place to sleep on a cold and stormy night.
  • That I am forgiven even when I get angry and it goes off the charts and I don’t think Godly thoughts or do Godly things.
  • That the sky was blue and clear today.
  • That I could sleep in today.
  • That I can pay my rent.

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Mood music for good friends, vol. 2

•January 23, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Here’s a series of my favorite songs, which I listen to when I (a) need a friend, (b) am not getting along with a friend, (c) have a new friend, (d) miss an old friend, or (e) am celebrating my friends. All rock, all the time. LOL


That’s what I wrote for the first volume. The same rules apply here, but I just want to add that I’m choosing songs I like, and though I appreciate that you may not share my taste, I’m not responsible for songs here that do NOT make you feel happier, or more motivated, or more determined, etc.

It’s just that they make ME feel some kind of way from among those. 🙂 I hope they will be of some comfort to you and your friends.
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Drama defined

•August 6, 2011 • Leave a Comment

If there's gonna be drama, there oughta be masks too!

Once again, I had a complaint:

When people are upset about too much “drama” in their lives, what do they mean? Why don’t they say?

So I brought it up on Facebook, thinking that it doesn’t seem like the same word every time I hear it. And once again, Facebook brought me answers.
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“…we see things as we are…”

•August 5, 2011 • 1 Comment

Link, ready for battle

I’ve had a problem for some time with folks you use social media, especially Facebook, to say things like “life is too short to be anything but happy,” and “surround yourself only with people who make you laugh.” It has been my opinion that when you advocate this, you twist a knife in the wounds of the sad, the lonely and the lost. You suck the oxygen out of their atmosphere. So I brought it up on Facebook myself.

There was some discussion. What came out of it is that, as in many things, there’s more than one point of view.
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HECK YEAH! Five ways it fricken gets better!

•June 20, 2011 • Leave a Comment

SpongeBob, by Shelley Panzarella

Lego SpongeBob, by Shelley Panzarella

Recently, Cracked magazine published an article entitled 5 Reasons Life Actually Does Get Better. This article was no doubt in response to the popularity of the It Gets Better Project and their fine work on behalf of bullied LGBT kids.

The trouble with the Cracked article, which otherwise brings up good points, is that it contains so much profanity that it’s not appropriate for anyone under 21, basically. So even though the author says it’s for bullied kids, it isn’t. It’s for Cracked readers to get a laugh, and no use pretending otherwise.
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