Do we let our friends just fade away?

•May 29, 2011 • 1 Comment

Do we start to even forget what they look like?

I got word today that a good friend of mine – well, OK, to ME she’s a good friend, to HER I’m not sure whether I qualify – has Stage IV cancer, and will die sometime in the next year. I even asked her how much time she had. And told her I wanted to be of some help. Her answer:

Most of the people I know IRL are uncomfortable with it. It’s difficult.

That doesn’t surprise me. We will often handle bad news from our friends this way: because we don’t know what to do, or we know there is nothing we CAN do, or maybe we just want as little to do with the matter as possible.
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T. D. Jakes’ “Three Types of Friends”

•March 14, 2011 • Leave a Comment

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Dr. Ron’s Valentine’s Day micro-novel

•February 10, 2011 • 1 Comment

Pooch Sling

little doggies and kitties love this!

I tried writing a micro-novel, suitable for reproduction on a Tweet. This is what I came up with. 🙂

BEGINNING… She wasn’t sure of his love. He brought home six chocolates, etched one letter each, spelling ANGELA. She is now. …END

Everything except the BEGINNING and END fit on a Tweet with enough room left to retweet it. Maybe my first micro-novel will go viral!
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I used to be organized…

•February 8, 2011 • 2 Comments

One of these days...

One of these days...

There was a day when I was well-organized. I kept a day-planner, and I knew where I was supposed to be every day, and when. I would check that planner at the beginning of the day, and rank the things I had to do by importance, so I would do the most important things early.

Then I fell out of the habit, over a matter of years.

And when you fall out of the habit, of course you don’t do things in the order of real priority. But in terms of relationships, that’s not the worst thing. The worst thing is that you start acting in ways that show disrespect toward people you otherwise care about.
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Half-truths, ivory-colored

•January 23, 2011 • Leave a Comment
Uma Thurman

Uma Thurman, dreaming about her karma

Half-truths, cream-colored
ivory-hued, matte-finished
Are all still half-truths.

This is a haiku I constructed from something I heard Uma Thurman say in a movie. (She followed up by saying that half-truths – or perhaps what we would call “little white lies” – undermine the foundation of our relationships.)
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Friends FIRST!

•January 9, 2011 • Leave a Comment

Adrian Brody and Halle Berry at the Oscars

OK, maybe this isn't you. But maybe you FEEL it is!

This is a special edition of Advice for the Friendlorn. Frankly, I’ve been waiting for this. I hope I give you an answer that suits your needs.

Dear Doc,

I think I may be falling in love with my best friend. And I’m so afraid that if I allow this, I’ll risk losing everything. You’re acting like you know something about this. Tell me what I need to do.


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The holidays are the cruelest time

•December 29, 2010 • 1 Comment
Santa's got a message for Susan

Santa's got a message for Susan

…it’s certainly the cruelest time for…

  • People who aren’t near their friends, and can’t get to them.
  • People who have had trouble with a friend.
  • People who have problems beyond what their friends can solve (e.g. debt, sickness, injury, etc.)
  • People who have lost someone dear to them.
  • People who simply don’t have friends, for whatever reason.

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